"People usually maintain nebulous boundaries out of fear: fear that if you ask for commitment the other person will refuse; fear that if you make a commitment, you'll break it; or fear that you'll be swallowed up and lose yourself. The ability to commit is related to levels of differentiation. Because people who are well differentiated are better able to hang onto themselves in close relationship to others, commitment feels like freedom to go deeper, feel union, and explore oneself."--from If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path, by Charlotte Kasl
Well put, Charlotte.
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